I 'trip' for her!

I 'trip' for her!

Yesterday, we started a series on commitment and the impact it has on marriages. Today, we would be taking it further by examining how the value of commitment is formed. The first thing to check is how we were raised. The reason is because when a mechanic or a medical doctor is presented with a problem, professional ethics require that they troubleshoot or diagnose before prescribing solutions.

Of course, there are many reasons why some couples do not honour the commitments they made to each other, but for the sake of this write up, we would focus on the cradle. Sometimes, it starts from our childhood. Consider these scenarios:

1. Your son arranges to ride a bike with a friend on a Saturday, another friend later calls to invite him to a birthday party on the same day. Would you allow him to cancel the first arrangement so as to go for the birthday party?

2. Your daughter pleaded with you to buy a little puppy and you both agreed it would be her responsibility to feed and walk it everyday. She commits to it, but abandons the responsibility of taking care of it after the first week.

These may seem trivial or fickle, but they are some of the little acts which form that man or woman that would become a CEO, husband or wife tomorrow.

You may say that you are the way you are because you were poorly raised, but now that you know better, take responsibility for your life and marital romance; make things better. We would either have an excuse or have the marriage of our dreams, but we can't have both.

ACTION POINT: Start with little things, make a commitment to text your spouse daily to let him/her know one quality you 'trip' for.

Chidi & Victor Akunna Relationship Catalysts Connected Hearts Daily Devotional (C) 2015 Commitment Series 081 @FamilyAffairs05 ...connecting hearts and strengthening families.